Making Actors Cry

I recently went to Los Angeles to work with clients as a Healer. The trip was mostly work, with a few stops for fun. I sat at one of the the outdoor tables of a nice Italian restaurant by the fountain at the Grove. While I was debating on whether or not to see the Avengers a second time, I began thinking about all the actors I have seen in my private practice. It’s not uncommon for me to be sitting on my couch, watching a movie only to see a client reciting lines on the screen. My eyebrows rise in surprise, and then I smile to myself on the inside, because no one in the room knows that I have met this person before. Their confidentiality, of course, is protected. But in my head, I remind myself of Will Farrell in the movie Elf when he screams, “Santa!!! I know him!” By the way, Will is not a client of mine. 
My actor clients often come with an intriguing irony. These same clients which I saw having a tearful moment on screen often have the toughest time shedding their tears for themselves. To cry on screen, they often recall sad moments in their own life, with the aim of giving a better performance. They cry to be liked by their fans and to ensure that their employers keep hiring them.  Yet, they often struggle to cry for themselves. They’re like a boxer who needs to save up their angst to be able to perform well in the ring.
In my own life, I usually save crying for special occasions like funerals, big life realizations, and really good movies. Good performances by actors have been the most consistent inspiration for my own tears. Its only fair that I return the favor to them in session. Witnessing them peel away their masks helps me more easily find compassion for this person in front of me.  Their fame drips away to reveal a real person with a heart filled with struggles. This is an essential part of the healing because much of their power of captivation resides in that vulnerability. In essence, they must unlearn their old habits to be able to feel their heart again.
I have found that looking beneath a person’s outer persona can inspire release. By seeing something inside of them that very few people get to witness, you validate that person’s inner most world. By honoring and acknowledging something special about them that has nothing to do with what people demand from them is a form of liberation. That recognition of a secret dream or tender sentiment that they hold for their family or project feeds a dry spot in their heart. Then, the tears flow, a sweet release of long held feelings, making room for something new to enter that person’s heart. Finally, someone understands them.
The more I reflected on actors, the more I realized that this applies to nearly every people that I have met. How often are you truly seen for who you are, rather than what people expect you to do?

Thank you to the actors who have touched my inner story.

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